cat fish

Human beings are social animals. This means that human beings can’t live without interacting with other people. As people interacted with other people, a term “friend” came out. To me, a friend is who I can trust, really.

           As I watched a movie “catfish,” I desperately needed to think about “relationship” between people. The movie “catfish” was about a woman, Megan, who used fake ID to contact a man; Nev. Megan and Nev were interested to each other and had great time in Facebook, a place where it is possible to meet people without knowing them. Nev and Megan felt actual love and affection to each other under a term “friend” in Face book. A relationship without knowing real identity seems awkward to me, doesn’t it? In Internet, we use a term “friend” to whom we do not know. Like this, people tend to use a word “friend” easier and lighter than before in modern society. This is why I thought about the meaning of “real friend” in our modern society after watching this movie.

           Before the age of Face book, people met other people and gradually developed their relationships into friends. Because people had to meet in a same place to communicate; it actually made people easier to determine other people who want to be closer or not. If a person A wanted to be closer with a person B, A and B should meet frequently. As they meet each other, they get to know each other because they talk each other. They talk about social problems, friendships, problems, private life and etc. By having conversations with these topics, both A and B get closely enough to know each other than using just typing. And the friend A could also read inner emotion of the friend B, because people see the emotional changes. So, real friends can really understand feelings and minds.

           But in reality, it is hard to make or to find real friend. This is because the atmosphere of modern society is “competition.” People only think about their interests not others. So, it is hard to find a friend who can really understand other people.

           Not only the atmosphere but the society has changed into a place where people easily contact other people. For example, in Facebook friend list, there are many people who I don’t know. We just push button “friend” to ask for friend and push button “accepted” to accept the friend request. Because, Facebook is Internet society, there are no limitations on time or place to meet other people. Many friends decreased the preciousness of each real friend that made hard to meet real friends. It is hard to find people who think real friends are needed.